How do you recognize your Ideal Soulmate?

There are 4 C’s that we consciously or unconsciously use to “know” our true love soulmate when he/she “shows up”.

The first, Communication, we discussed in the previous blog.

The second, is “Common Values” – what is most important to you is also important to your Soulmate. How do you know your values?

There is a simple, fun and effective method for identifying what is most important to you – Life Change the App’s Soulmate Attracter exercise.  A free download in the Apple App Store or Android’s Google Play, you could be clear on what’s important to you – your values – and launch the Soulmate Attraction ball rolling in as little as 30 minutes just by completing the exercise in the Soulmate Attracter section of Life Change the App.

Togetherness – The Healthy Alternative

There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.~ Mother Theresa

Studies prove that married couples live longer than single people… why is that?

Maybe a better statement might be that lonely people have a shorter life expectancy than people with fulfilling relationships. In short, loneliness, not only makes people miserable, loneliness suppresses the immune system and increases susceptibility to illness.

Good news! There is a cure for what ails lonely hearts and health, AND it adds years to their life! A Soulmate Relationship!

It is important, however, that the time spent in a Soulmate relationship be fulfilling and rewarding – lonely in a relationship could be even worse than single and lonely! So, how do you make sure that the relationship you attract is ideal?

Simple: Life Change the App and its 4 in 1 exercises help you identify what ideal means to you – using the always free app, Soulmate Attracter – then, (& this is the biggie) the 3 in-app purchase apps (Belief Change, Karma Change & Emotion Transformer) help you remove blocks and barriers to attracting and enjoying the love of your life. 4 apps in 1, Life Change the App is a free download in the Apple App Store and Android’s Google Play[hilight color=”FFFF00″]the 3 in-app purchases (Belief Change, Karma Change & Emotion Transformer) are on sale $6.99 for all 3, now until midnight on Valentine’s Day[/hilight], then will return to $6.99 & $7.99 each. Soulmate Attracter app is always free and can be used and reused unlimited times. For more information, please check out

Simple, however, is not always easy. For those who need or wish for additional support or accelerated results there is the Life Change Coaching Program. Check it out here.



End Single – Attract Your Ideal Soulmate NOW

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to see and find all the barriers within yourself that you built against it” -Rumi

Remove the barriers and love comes to you effortlessly!

What are the barriers within? How do you remove them?

Barriers are judgments formed as the result of past experiences that form beliefs. These beliefs primarily operate unconsciously, sometimes consciously, to protect you from perceived “harm” – perception shaped by your beliefs.

For example, if you observed many marriages that experience pain of adultery – or if you experienced it personally in your own relationship; you may decide that “marriage equals pain”. Additionally, you may decide that all spouses cheat and, consequently, view all prospective spouses as future cheaters – on you – which equals PAIN! This happens unconsciouslyConsciously, you wish to attract your soulmate – to experience joy of togetherness, intimacy, companionship. This mismatch between conscious and unconscious wants & needs, causes conscious and unconscious in-congruence – misalignment! Your unconscious does “whatever it takes“, energetically, through your thoughts, feelings & actions, to protect you which means either repelling or sabotaging soulmate relationships.

How can you eliminate or transform those limiting, barrier beliefs? Simple:
1) Life Change The App is a free download in Apple’s App Store and Android’s Google Play. Life Change the App contains one free app (Soulmate Attracter) and three in-app purchases. Belief Change the App – one of the in-app purchases ([hilight color=”FFFF00″]on sale now until midnight Valentine’sDay[/hilight]) – helps the user to remove their superficial, easy to shift beliefs;
2) Belief Change The Book contains a more extensive 10-step exercise that explores and enables how-to change deep rooted, more difficult to shift limiting and barrier beliefs. There is a link, in, to page through a chapter of Belief Change The Book which is available as e-download for B&N nook or’s kindle or for purchase as paperback.

Simple is not always easy; therefore, there is also Life Change Coaching Program to help you succeed in love and success.

Remove your barriers to love, and love flows to you effortlessly, and just in time for a Valentine’s Day celebration.

Cheers! <3
end single

I’m dreaming…

Have you ever heard the saying, “be careful what you ask for ‘cuz you just might get it”?

“Dreaming”, “asking” for what you want, even “wishing” are powerful tools to get what you want. Many of us, however, are unclear, insufficiently specific, and vague leaving a huge void that the Universe fills in with anything close to what we “asked” for; then, we groan, “it didn’t work”.

The Law of Attraction does work, every time; what’s buried in our unconscious mind, and.or lack of clarity, are blocks that repel or sabotage our ability to attract and enjoy what our conscious mind longs to experience. Life Change The App contains 4 apps that help the user remove blocks and saboteur energy.

Happy holidays!
im dreaming

I believe in MAGIC!

Sometimes, all we need is child-like faith. willingness to reach out, explore and define the world around us – the way we WANT it to be. ‘Tis the season to BELIEVE!

I believe in “magic”, but not in “magical thinking”. “Magic” lies in “commitment” to be, do or have what you “want”.

“At the moment of commitment the entire Universe conspires to assist you.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Happy holidays 🙂
i believe in magic

Time Travel to Attract Your Soulmate Now!

My Soulmate and I recognized our attraction and launched our Soulmate journey more than 17 ½ years ago.

Our journey has been filled with amazing, loving and joyous experiences that we, frequently, enjoy reminiscing – many treasured adventures that exceed our personal hopes, dreams and imagination, made pleasurable a million times over because we experienced them together rather than alone. As we walk together down memory lane, reliving our adventures and magic moments it serves to add fuel to the fire of our love and passion – reinforces and strengthens our bond.

Simultaneously, these past 17 ½ years had their fair share of challenges, struggles and growth opportunities that, in hindsight, we give thanks that we survived and now thrive, better because of how we approached, assimilated and broke through their experience. Consequently, one, often overlooked and under-appreciated advantage of a Soulmate relationship is that our Soulmate “pushes our buttons” which exposes our wounds and allows us the opportunity to choose to heal or not. It still surprises me when I hear someone say that if Soulmate love is not easy then it isn’t meant to be – my Soulmate and I are better people today because of the wounds we confronted and healed together.

Fortunately, today there is a smarter, safer, proactive way to expose our wounds, in other words, an alternative to learning the hard way! Learning proactively – in advance of the real life experience – enables intellectually inspired response rather than emotionally driven reaction and allows us to face and battle our demons in a safe, comfortable environment time and place of our choice. Life Change The App is now available for free download in both Apple’s App and Google Play Stores.

Life Change The App contains 4 apps that help the user confront and master life and love’s inevitable challenges. The world renowned Soulmate Attractor App assists the user to turn the lemons from past experience into the seeds of greatness for next time around as you gain clarity and certainty of what you really, truly want to experience.  This popular app targets attracting a Soulmate yet is equally successful and popular for use to attract your ideal job, house, car or pretty much anything you can describe.

Belief Change The App is ideal for those users who effectively identified with clarity and confidence, exactly what they want to experience; yet, feel “stuck”: blocked totally, limited or when you get what you want only to sabotage it, seemingly uncontrollably.

Karma Change The App is ideal for users wishing to reverse bad luck. While Emotion Transformer helps the user translate the message that an emotional response is meant to communicate and turn the destructive, negative experience into powerful, positive energy for constructive action.

Soulmate Attractor App is always a free download at either your Apple App Store or the Google Play Store Right now, for a limited time only, you can purchase Belief Change, Karma Change and Emotion Transformer at the Google Play Store for one low price of $6.99. Act now to acquire tools to help you Attract Your Soulmate now and forever as well as to overcome and master inevitable life and love challenges and obstacles that my Soulmate and I perceive as our labor of love.

Best wishes for your Life and Love Extraordinaire!

janet lee

Life Change – The App

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012

Life After Marriage – STILL Attract Your True Love Soul Mate

Happy Valentine’s Day

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been asked what the secret is to staying in love after marriage… A quote from a wedding invitation sums it up nicely, “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” Falling in love daily offsets that classic complaint, “I feel taken for granted!”

What was it like when you first fell in love? Remember how it felt when you really wanted your Soul Mate and were not yet convinced they loved you back yet or were “yours”. Remember when you had to work on building a relationship? Remember how you felt when you were just so grateful to sit next to your spouse? When you looked into their eyes? That first hungry kiss? Really take the time to remember special moments, special songs and remember them OFTEN!

But, memories are not enough; you really need to make NEW memories. My Soul Mate and I vowed to make our marriage a “lifelong date”. Every day we “earn” each other’s love and admiration. Every day we work at attracting each other all over again. And, just like Valentine’s Day, that work CAN be fun!

  • What can I do today that will bring a smile to my Soul Mate’s face?
  • What can I do today that makes this day a better experience for my Soul Mate?
  • What might I do today that makes my Soul Mate feel confident that I am the one and only love of their life?
  • What might my Soul Mate need to hear or read or experience…
  • How can I make sure my Soul Mate’s world is a better place because I am in it?

Thinking of ways to bless your Soul Mate is a good start to keeping true love alive, interesting and fun. Remembering what it was like when you were dating or preparing for Valentine’s Day is a great way to come up with the perfect things to do!

But what if time and experiences have caused you to drift apart? Is there no hope? Are there “irreconcilable differences”? What can be done to revive troubled Soul Mate relationships?

Absolutely reliving all those good memories helps; they can give you the reason and motivation to work on your relationship. Reviving feelings and emotions can be a plus too. However, sometimes there have been so many hard feelings built up over years of hurt that it takes more work and effort to revive the love and romance of dating and the celebration of your love. Sometimes it requires breaking down the walls built up between the two of you. Our coaching program at APCD Institute can help you identify those walls and the barrier energy they generate so that you can potentially dissolve and transform them into the energy for a loving, meaningful and fulfilling Soul Mate relationship.

janet lee

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2011

5 Love Attraction Lessons from Music & Lyrics

5 Love Attraction Lessons from Music & Lyrics
1. Life is not always fair, just or nice! Many of us do not handle unfair, injustice or mean experiences well – I know I don’t but like a fine wine or cheese… I’m improving with age and experience. The main character in Music & Lyrics, Alex, having survived a break-up with his childhood friend and business partner, grieved, turned to escapist behaviors with drugs, alcohol and womanizing then spent 15+ years meandering aimlessly and dispassionately through life until he receives an unexpected opportunity to revive his career and return him to his glory days.

His soon to be love interest, Sophie, nursed a wound from a college relationship done bad and gone public. She nursed her wounds from the safe space of home and family only timidly putting herself out for fear of validating the unfair, unkind claims of her former lover.

2. It is way too easy to get stuck in a past sense of injustice related to a break-up. There are a million how-not-to books available and just as many telling readers how to get unstuck. Heart break, divorce equal hurt feelings that’s that: self-doubts, life-doubts, fear, confusion, despair and an extremely intense need to avoid repeating the experience need to be honored, evaluated and addressed. This is pure survival instinct! A period of time to grieve and mourn is natural and normal but is not intended to be permanent! Short term, it is valuable downtime when used for reflection, resolving and realignment but when prolonged, it blocks the ability to heal the hurt and go on with life in a meaningful and fulfilling way and becomes a barrier to attracting the love of your life into your life.

Long term the emotion felt is a valuable tool – energy to launch a greater, better than ever next and again, intensely felt emotions are the fodder for books, music, movies… and significant change!

3. Soul Mates push each other’s buttons revealing those stuck places. It seems cruel that the Universe puts two wounds together and then the buttons push and they find themselves bleeding all over again. Yet, the emotions of heartbreak and despair, confusion and even revelations are the seeds that grew into a beautiful melody with heartfelt lyrics. Without those emotions it would be difficult to write a song that resonated with a large audience who relate because they have or do feel the same way. And all those million how-not-to books and all those telling readers how to get unstuck were all written by people who have been there done that… Adversity in life serves a purpose but only if we apply their lessons learned!
Without emotion signaling some kind of discomfort, no change would take place. Soul mates tend to expose those areas where change is necessary, embarrassingly, uncomfortably!

4. Everything happens for a reason and the reason is good. Serendipity puts opportunity & unlikely people in place just in time for us to choose heal and move forward again or stay stuck. Who would have imagined a previously unknown girl, filling in for a friend whose job is to care for the plants, would not only be the salvation for his career and income but also the love of his life? That’s how it goes in Music & Lyrics. Only, however, in his own tangled web of emotions was he able to reach out for healing and simultaneously produce a hit song.

Like in the movie, life events fall into place perfectly whether we realize it or not. There is always a perfect order playing out in our lives and its timing is perfect.

5. We do, however, have freewill! When a person is stuck, they literally have a “shadow overhead” and a “cloud” that distorts their first impressions. Then, caught up in pain-drama and fears, even their ideal Soul Mate appears to be another heart break waiting to happen. There is a way back into love when you leverage downtime to reflect, learn and grow. Most of us need help to do that, especially at our lowest moments. The 5-step Attraction Process transforms pain and trauma into a powerful attracting energy for what you really want in a Soul Mate relationship. Followed by the Belief Change work you will eliminate barrier energy and clear the energetic path to attract your Soul Mate quickly and easily.

Way Back into Love by Adam Schlesinger from the movie Music and Lyrics
Verse 1 (Drew Barrymore or Haley Bennett)
I’ve been living with a shadow over head,
I’ve been sleeping with a cloud above my bed.
I’ve been lonely for so long,
Trapped in the past,
I just can’t seem to move on!
(Hugh Grant)
I’ve been hiding all my hopes and dreams away,
Just in case I ever need ‘em again someday.
I’ve been setting aside time,
To clear a little space in the corners of my mind.
Chorus (Both)
All I wanna do is find my way back into love.
I can’t make it through without a way back into love.
Ooo hooow
Verse 2 (Drew Barrymore or Haley Bennett)
I’ve been watchin’ but the stars refuse to shine
I’ve been searchin’ but I just don’t see the signs
I know that it’s out there
There’s gotta be something for my soul somewhere.
(Hugh Grant)
I’ve been looking for someone to shed some light
Not somebody just to get me through the night
I could use some direction
And I’m open to your suggestion.
Chorus (Both)
All I wanna do is find my way back into love.
I can’t make it through without a way back into love.
And if I open my heart again
I guess I’m hoping you’ll be there for me in the end.
Middle Eight (Drew Barrymore or Haley Bennett)
There are moments when I don’t know if it’s real
Or if anybody feels the way I feel
I need inspiration
Not just another negotiation
Chorus (Both)
All I wanna do is find my way back into love.
I can’t make it through without a way back into love.
And if I open my heart to you,
I’m hoping you’ll show me what to do.
And if you help me to start again
You know that I’ll be there for you in the end.

I look forward to hearing your success story! Namaste.
janet lee

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2010

A Way Back Into Love – Attract Your Ideal Soul Mate Now

A Way Back into Love

When you think about being in love with your Soul Mate what do you think of?

Do you imagine that one person, whom you are most comfortable sharing moonlit nights and deepest secrets? Falling asleep in each other’s arms and awaking side by side? A special moment that only the two of you get? The smell of their cologne or hot sweaty body? The look in their eyes when you walk into the room and that sense of connection you experience with no other? The feel of their skin next to yours as you move to the dance of love?


Do you remember that painful break-up, when you felt all your good feelings shattered into a million bits as your heart bleeds pain and despair? All reason and purpose to live sapped from every cell of your body, you no longer care if you live?


Perhaps you remember feeling trapped, stripped of your hopes and dreams and certain there is no way out or… no way back into love.

There is hope and there is a way! Following my step-by-step process, you will transform your experiences, memories and observations into a powerful homing device that zeroes in on what you want and long to experience with your Soul mate.

The song, Way Back Into Love, from the movie Music and Lyrics, delightfully conveys how your past heart breaks, disappointments and trauma become a shadow, or a cloud, that keeps you lonely. However, within suffering lay the very seeds that grow into true and lasting love but only if you have a process as well as the courage and discipline to explore the corners of your mind… the space that harbors barrier and limiting beliefs that block and prevent you from experiencing the love of your life – your Soul Mate.

The 5-step Attraction Process transforms pain and trauma into a powerful attracting energy for what you really want in a Soul Mate relationship. Followed by the Belief Change work you will eliminate barrier energy and clear the energetic path to attract your Soul Mate quickly and easily.

I would love to hear your story of how you found your way back into love! Until then, Namaste.

janet lee

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2010

Roslita’s Story – How She Attracted Her Soul Mate

Bikram’s Yoga is an intense experience, as much or more mental than it is physical. One evening following a seemingly typical class, I met the lovely Roslita. Our eyes met across the locker room; I could see that hers were red, puffy and it did not take much for the tears to flow. She came over, introduced herself and asked if she could talk with me; she said that she sensed I could help. Her heart was breaking – her Soul Mate relationship ended; yet, subsequent brief interludes and conversations revived her hope then sent her back into a downward spiral when reality returned. When I met Roslita, confused and deep in despair, she struggled to move through the daily motions of work, exercise and motherhood – everything had become more effort than she imagined she had strength or energy to continue. She needed help, she needed hope and she needed A Way Back into Love.

We spoke by phone several times, emailed and met as she worked through the 5-step Attraction Process that transforms pain into a powerful attracting energy for what she really wants in a Soul Mate relationship. Once we identified what she wanted and asked God to provide her ideal Soul Mate, we then worked on clearing the emotional blocks that could actually prevent her either attracting or enjoying a Soul Mate experience.

Committed and dedicated to produce maximum results, Roslita diligently updated and worked her journal with her list and stems; all her efforts were rewarded! It was rewarding for me to witness her ah-ha moments as she uncovered barrier and limiting beliefs that affected not only her Soul Mate relationships but also with her mother and she could see how this blocked energy passed on generationally to her own daughter. Roslita told me she felt years of burdens lifted as a result of clearing her blocked energy and renewed confidence that not only did she deserve a loving Soul Mate relationship, it was her destiny!

When I met Roslita she felt that all hope for a loving Soul Mate relationship disappeared with Mr. Perfect; but working through the 5-step process and then exploring her beliefs about Soul Mate relationships removed barrier energy which cleared the path for Mr. Right to sweep her off her feet. She is now happily married to the Soul Mate she really wanted.

The same processes that worked for Roslita can work for you too. If you long for a Soul Mate relationship but are haunted by pain and sorrow of past traumatic experiences – your own or someone else’s – then the 5-Step process and Belief Change work can help you find your way back into love where you, too, will be singing At Last My Love Has Come Along.


Check out the 5-Step Process that started Roslita on the path to singing At Last My Love has Come Along…

And to the Belief Change work that removed her love blocks…

I look forward to hearing your success story! Namaste,

janet lee

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2010