How Worry Can Help You Attract Your Ideal Soulmate

Do you fear that your next relationship will be as bad or worse than your past or present one?

When you think about your parents’ or friends’ relationships does it scare the heck out of you to imagine that you could end up like that?

GREAT NEWS! Then you can use your negative feeling’s energy” to gather, sort and learn what you want and need in an ideal Soulmate relationship.

Life Change – the App contains 4 apps that help you turn your worries, doubts and fears into the best thing that ever happened to you. Soulmate Attractor, a free app, helps you gather, sort and learn. The in-app purchases: Belief Change and Karma Change help you remove blocks and limits to receiving and enjoying what you want and Emotion Transformer helps you transform negative feelings into powerful energy for constructive action. There is help to turn your worries, doubts and fears and that help can be found here in both IOS for Apple iPhone/iPad/iPod touch and Android Devices!

How do you recognize your Ideal Soulmate?

There are 4 C’s that we consciously or unconsciously use to “know” our true love soulmate when he/she “shows up”.

The first, Communication, we discussed in the previous blog.

The second, is “Common Values” – what is most important to you is also important to your Soulmate. How do you know your values?

There is a simple, fun and effective method for identifying what is most important to you – Life Change the App’s Soulmate Attracter exercise.  A free download in the Apple App Store or Android’s Google Play, you could be clear on what’s important to you – your values – and launch the Soulmate Attraction ball rolling in as little as 30 minutes just by completing the exercise in the Soulmate Attracter section of Life Change the App.

Togetherness – The Healthy Alternative

There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.~ Mother Theresa

Studies prove that married couples live longer than single people… why is that?

Maybe a better statement might be that lonely people have a shorter life expectancy than people with fulfilling relationships. In short, loneliness, not only makes people miserable, loneliness suppresses the immune system and increases susceptibility to illness.

Good news! There is a cure for what ails lonely hearts and health, AND it adds years to their life! A Soulmate Relationship!

It is important, however, that the time spent in a Soulmate relationship be fulfilling and rewarding – lonely in a relationship could be even worse than single and lonely! So, how do you make sure that the relationship you attract is ideal?

Simple: Life Change the App and its 4 in 1 exercises help you identify what ideal means to you – using the always free app, Soulmate Attracter – then, (& this is the biggie) the 3 in-app purchase apps (Belief Change, Karma Change & Emotion Transformer) help you remove blocks and barriers to attracting and enjoying the love of your life. 4 apps in 1, Life Change the App is a free download in the Apple App Store and Android’s Google Play[hilight color=”FFFF00″]the 3 in-app purchases (Belief Change, Karma Change & Emotion Transformer) are on sale $6.99 for all 3, now until midnight on Valentine’s Day[/hilight], then will return to $6.99 & $7.99 each. Soulmate Attracter app is always free and can be used and reused unlimited times. For more information, please check out

Simple, however, is not always easy. For those who need or wish for additional support or accelerated results there is the Life Change Coaching Program. Check it out here.



End Single – Attract Your Ideal Soulmate NOW

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to see and find all the barriers within yourself that you built against it” -Rumi

Remove the barriers and love comes to you effortlessly!

What are the barriers within? How do you remove them?

Barriers are judgments formed as the result of past experiences that form beliefs. These beliefs primarily operate unconsciously, sometimes consciously, to protect you from perceived “harm” – perception shaped by your beliefs.

For example, if you observed many marriages that experience pain of adultery – or if you experienced it personally in your own relationship; you may decide that “marriage equals pain”. Additionally, you may decide that all spouses cheat and, consequently, view all prospective spouses as future cheaters – on you – which equals PAIN! This happens unconsciouslyConsciously, you wish to attract your soulmate – to experience joy of togetherness, intimacy, companionship. This mismatch between conscious and unconscious wants & needs, causes conscious and unconscious in-congruence – misalignment! Your unconscious does “whatever it takes“, energetically, through your thoughts, feelings & actions, to protect you which means either repelling or sabotaging soulmate relationships.

How can you eliminate or transform those limiting, barrier beliefs? Simple:
1) Life Change The App is a free download in Apple’s App Store and Android’s Google Play. Life Change the App contains one free app (Soulmate Attracter) and three in-app purchases. Belief Change the App – one of the in-app purchases ([hilight color=”FFFF00″]on sale now until midnight Valentine’sDay[/hilight]) – helps the user to remove their superficial, easy to shift beliefs;
2) Belief Change The Book contains a more extensive 10-step exercise that explores and enables how-to change deep rooted, more difficult to shift limiting and barrier beliefs. There is a link, in, to page through a chapter of Belief Change The Book which is available as e-download for B&N nook or’s kindle or for purchase as paperback.

Simple is not always easy; therefore, there is also Life Change Coaching Program to help you succeed in love and success.

Remove your barriers to love, and love flows to you effortlessly, and just in time for a Valentine’s Day celebration.

Cheers! <3
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Singing hearts attract things to sing about

Does your heart sing with joy or melancholy?

If your answer is “joy“; then, you clearly notice more “good” things in your experience.

If your answer is “melancholy” (or sadness, or anger, or despair, etc); then, you clearly notice more “bad” things in your experience.

Both exist in your experience simultaneously. Whether your focus is on “good” or “bad”, is a choice, and typically an unconscious “habit”.

As you might know, because of deeply entrenched neural pathways, hidden in your unconscious mind, habits are not easy to “break”; but, with persistent right effort, absolutely can be. Life Change Coaching Program* leverages trained Facilitators, Life Change the App* and other “exercises” to help you break habits that hold you back and prevent you from seeing, feeling, enjoying the “good” in your life. With help*, you, too, can be singing through the holidays and on through the New Year.

Wishing you a joyous holiday!

*NOT intended to replace professional medical or psychological treatment.
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5 Love Attraction Lessons from Music & Lyrics

5 Love Attraction Lessons from Music & Lyrics
1. Life is not always fair, just or nice! Many of us do not handle unfair, injustice or mean experiences well – I know I don’t but like a fine wine or cheese… I’m improving with age and experience. The main character in Music & Lyrics, Alex, having survived a break-up with his childhood friend and business partner, grieved, turned to escapist behaviors with drugs, alcohol and womanizing then spent 15+ years meandering aimlessly and dispassionately through life until he receives an unexpected opportunity to revive his career and return him to his glory days.

His soon to be love interest, Sophie, nursed a wound from a college relationship done bad and gone public. She nursed her wounds from the safe space of home and family only timidly putting herself out for fear of validating the unfair, unkind claims of her former lover.

2. It is way too easy to get stuck in a past sense of injustice related to a break-up. There are a million how-not-to books available and just as many telling readers how to get unstuck. Heart break, divorce equal hurt feelings that’s that: self-doubts, life-doubts, fear, confusion, despair and an extremely intense need to avoid repeating the experience need to be honored, evaluated and addressed. This is pure survival instinct! A period of time to grieve and mourn is natural and normal but is not intended to be permanent! Short term, it is valuable downtime when used for reflection, resolving and realignment but when prolonged, it blocks the ability to heal the hurt and go on with life in a meaningful and fulfilling way and becomes a barrier to attracting the love of your life into your life.

Long term the emotion felt is a valuable tool – energy to launch a greater, better than ever next and again, intensely felt emotions are the fodder for books, music, movies… and significant change!

3. Soul Mates push each other’s buttons revealing those stuck places. It seems cruel that the Universe puts two wounds together and then the buttons push and they find themselves bleeding all over again. Yet, the emotions of heartbreak and despair, confusion and even revelations are the seeds that grew into a beautiful melody with heartfelt lyrics. Without those emotions it would be difficult to write a song that resonated with a large audience who relate because they have or do feel the same way. And all those million how-not-to books and all those telling readers how to get unstuck were all written by people who have been there done that… Adversity in life serves a purpose but only if we apply their lessons learned!
Without emotion signaling some kind of discomfort, no change would take place. Soul mates tend to expose those areas where change is necessary, embarrassingly, uncomfortably!

4. Everything happens for a reason and the reason is good. Serendipity puts opportunity & unlikely people in place just in time for us to choose heal and move forward again or stay stuck. Who would have imagined a previously unknown girl, filling in for a friend whose job is to care for the plants, would not only be the salvation for his career and income but also the love of his life? That’s how it goes in Music & Lyrics. Only, however, in his own tangled web of emotions was he able to reach out for healing and simultaneously produce a hit song.

Like in the movie, life events fall into place perfectly whether we realize it or not. There is always a perfect order playing out in our lives and its timing is perfect.

5. We do, however, have freewill! When a person is stuck, they literally have a “shadow overhead” and a “cloud” that distorts their first impressions. Then, caught up in pain-drama and fears, even their ideal Soul Mate appears to be another heart break waiting to happen. There is a way back into love when you leverage downtime to reflect, learn and grow. Most of us need help to do that, especially at our lowest moments. The 5-step Attraction Process transforms pain and trauma into a powerful attracting energy for what you really want in a Soul Mate relationship. Followed by the Belief Change work you will eliminate barrier energy and clear the energetic path to attract your Soul Mate quickly and easily.

Way Back into Love by Adam Schlesinger from the movie Music and Lyrics
Verse 1 (Drew Barrymore or Haley Bennett)
I’ve been living with a shadow over head,
I’ve been sleeping with a cloud above my bed.
I’ve been lonely for so long,
Trapped in the past,
I just can’t seem to move on!
(Hugh Grant)
I’ve been hiding all my hopes and dreams away,
Just in case I ever need ‘em again someday.
I’ve been setting aside time,
To clear a little space in the corners of my mind.
Chorus (Both)
All I wanna do is find my way back into love.
I can’t make it through without a way back into love.
Ooo hooow
Verse 2 (Drew Barrymore or Haley Bennett)
I’ve been watchin’ but the stars refuse to shine
I’ve been searchin’ but I just don’t see the signs
I know that it’s out there
There’s gotta be something for my soul somewhere.
(Hugh Grant)
I’ve been looking for someone to shed some light
Not somebody just to get me through the night
I could use some direction
And I’m open to your suggestion.
Chorus (Both)
All I wanna do is find my way back into love.
I can’t make it through without a way back into love.
And if I open my heart again
I guess I’m hoping you’ll be there for me in the end.
Middle Eight (Drew Barrymore or Haley Bennett)
There are moments when I don’t know if it’s real
Or if anybody feels the way I feel
I need inspiration
Not just another negotiation
Chorus (Both)
All I wanna do is find my way back into love.
I can’t make it through without a way back into love.
And if I open my heart to you,
I’m hoping you’ll show me what to do.
And if you help me to start again
You know that I’ll be there for you in the end.

I look forward to hearing your success story! Namaste.
janet lee

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2010

A Way Back Into Love – Attract Your Ideal Soul Mate Now

A Way Back into Love

When you think about being in love with your Soul Mate what do you think of?

Do you imagine that one person, whom you are most comfortable sharing moonlit nights and deepest secrets? Falling asleep in each other’s arms and awaking side by side? A special moment that only the two of you get? The smell of their cologne or hot sweaty body? The look in their eyes when you walk into the room and that sense of connection you experience with no other? The feel of their skin next to yours as you move to the dance of love?


Do you remember that painful break-up, when you felt all your good feelings shattered into a million bits as your heart bleeds pain and despair? All reason and purpose to live sapped from every cell of your body, you no longer care if you live?


Perhaps you remember feeling trapped, stripped of your hopes and dreams and certain there is no way out or… no way back into love.

There is hope and there is a way! Following my step-by-step process, you will transform your experiences, memories and observations into a powerful homing device that zeroes in on what you want and long to experience with your Soul mate.

The song, Way Back Into Love, from the movie Music and Lyrics, delightfully conveys how your past heart breaks, disappointments and trauma become a shadow, or a cloud, that keeps you lonely. However, within suffering lay the very seeds that grow into true and lasting love but only if you have a process as well as the courage and discipline to explore the corners of your mind… the space that harbors barrier and limiting beliefs that block and prevent you from experiencing the love of your life – your Soul Mate.

The 5-step Attraction Process transforms pain and trauma into a powerful attracting energy for what you really want in a Soul Mate relationship. Followed by the Belief Change work you will eliminate barrier energy and clear the energetic path to attract your Soul Mate quickly and easily.

I would love to hear your story of how you found your way back into love! Until then, Namaste.

janet lee

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2010

Roslita’s Story – How She Attracted Her Soul Mate

Bikram’s Yoga is an intense experience, as much or more mental than it is physical. One evening following a seemingly typical class, I met the lovely Roslita. Our eyes met across the locker room; I could see that hers were red, puffy and it did not take much for the tears to flow. She came over, introduced herself and asked if she could talk with me; she said that she sensed I could help. Her heart was breaking – her Soul Mate relationship ended; yet, subsequent brief interludes and conversations revived her hope then sent her back into a downward spiral when reality returned. When I met Roslita, confused and deep in despair, she struggled to move through the daily motions of work, exercise and motherhood – everything had become more effort than she imagined she had strength or energy to continue. She needed help, she needed hope and she needed A Way Back into Love.

We spoke by phone several times, emailed and met as she worked through the 5-step Attraction Process that transforms pain into a powerful attracting energy for what she really wants in a Soul Mate relationship. Once we identified what she wanted and asked God to provide her ideal Soul Mate, we then worked on clearing the emotional blocks that could actually prevent her either attracting or enjoying a Soul Mate experience.

Committed and dedicated to produce maximum results, Roslita diligently updated and worked her journal with her list and stems; all her efforts were rewarded! It was rewarding for me to witness her ah-ha moments as she uncovered barrier and limiting beliefs that affected not only her Soul Mate relationships but also with her mother and she could see how this blocked energy passed on generationally to her own daughter. Roslita told me she felt years of burdens lifted as a result of clearing her blocked energy and renewed confidence that not only did she deserve a loving Soul Mate relationship, it was her destiny!

When I met Roslita she felt that all hope for a loving Soul Mate relationship disappeared with Mr. Perfect; but working through the 5-step process and then exploring her beliefs about Soul Mate relationships removed barrier energy which cleared the path for Mr. Right to sweep her off her feet. She is now happily married to the Soul Mate she really wanted.

The same processes that worked for Roslita can work for you too. If you long for a Soul Mate relationship but are haunted by pain and sorrow of past traumatic experiences – your own or someone else’s – then the 5-Step process and Belief Change work can help you find your way back into love where you, too, will be singing At Last My Love Has Come Along.


Check out the 5-Step Process that started Roslita on the path to singing At Last My Love has Come Along…

And to the Belief Change work that removed her love blocks…

I look forward to hearing your success story! Namaste,

janet lee

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2010

GAPS Analysis to Attract Your Soul Mate NOW

As a manager, supervising, mentoring or coaching his employees, my husband successfully uses a process he learned many years ago called GAPS Analysis.

For Soul Mate purposes, I modified the GAPS Analysis to fit your needs! In the following scenario, your EGO plays the role of supervisor, mentor, coach or… parent.

GAPS Analysis to attract a Soul Mate (or any goal really):

  • Goal – What is your goal? What exactly is it that you want?
  • Abilities – What is your current situation?

◦    What talents, skills – strengths – do you currently possess that enable you to achieve your goal?

◦    What talents, skills – improvement areas – do you realize that you need to develop to successfully achieve your goal?

  • Perceptions – How do others see your ability to achieve your goal? Specifically, for Soul Mate Attraction purposes, what does your EGO perceive as the GAP between your goal and the perceptive judgment of the cumulated database of past experience held in your unconscious mind? In other words, what beliefs do you hold that support or sabotage your ability to achieve your goal?
  • Strategy – What can and will you do to close the GAP? As mentioned in previous blogs, there are many strategies available – some permanent, others that are temporary at best.

When I first decided what an ideal Soul Mate looked like to me, then asked for him to show up in my life, I was totally impressed that one week later Mr. Perfect showed up! Interestingly, Mr. Perfect did not turn out to be Mr. Right forever, rather, he was Mr. Right for now – to teach me a lesson. Through that experience, I learned one more thing I did not want so I could add one more thing to my list that I do want. Very simply, I did not want someone who did drugs; I was very clear that what I want is a Soul Mate who is clean and sober.

The next Mr. Perfect turned out to be an incarnation of an aspect of my father that I hated, despised and I learned, deeply scarred me. Literally, as a child and my father’s daughter I had formed beliefs that “men could never be faithful”; “all men prefer 20 year old girls over a mature woman”; “no man is worthy of entrusting my heart to…” Can you see the incongruence?

I asked for an ideal soul mate; yet, unconsciously, I didn’t believe it was possible! As my father’s daughter and later, as a friend to a number of guys, I had stored countless volumes of data in the back of my mind – my unconscious – that supported the limiting belief that a soul mate experience absolutely positively would break my heart and could potentially even destroy my ability to ever enjoy life again as long as I lived… okay, I AM a bit melodramatic but then I truly am an emotional person who feels everything to the Nth degree.

Fortunately, I realized what was happening and discovered the process that I included in the free Master Mind Cleanse e-Guidebook that you received in yesterday’s blog.

It was enough clearing work to get me into my Ideal Soul Mate relationship which I remain in – happily – 15 years later.

If you did not pick up your free copy in yesterday’s blog, click this link and the Master Mind Cleanse Guidebook is yours instantly with minimal effort.  It takes very little of your time and yet accelerates your time to attraction exponentially as well as increases sustainability – as in permanently removes barrier energy.

  • You will identify those emotions that either attract or repel your ideal soul mate relationship.
  • You will then have the opportunity to literally reframe or neutralize any negative emotional charges that become repelling energy.
  • You will shift negatives beliefs into positives, signaling to God and the Universe that you are ready to attract the most amazing, exciting, fulfilling and LOVING soul mate in your life NOW!

The Master Mind Cleanse Guidebook helps you discover what beliefs are hidden in your unconscious mind and leads you through how-to align them to your conscious mind’s wants and desires.

However, like peeling a cathartic onion, there always seems to be another layer! And, some beliefs are so stubborn and fixed that they take a bit extra work to resolve. Consequently, the book Belief Change – The Book was born.

Belief Change – The Book, available at (including on Kindle), and Barnes and, contains the simple, 10-Step Belief Change Exercise contains the 10-Step Belief Change Exercise that helps you resolve stubborn limiting beliefs. The difficult ones that don’t shift easily. And if you are really lucky, this exercise can help you reach to the core and the whole onion disappears – forever!

Whichever belief reconciliation process you choose, you can be confident and certain that it is a strategy that will move you closer to realizing your dreams… permanently.

How will your life be different when the love of your life is in your life? We would love to hear from you in the comment section below.

Until next time, Namaste,

janet lee

A Gift for You: Jump Start Your Soul Mate Attraction

Today is your lucky day! I have a gift for you – a step-by-step mini e-course that holds your hand through the “ask” process. It takes very little of your time and yet accelerates your time to attraction exponentially – GUARANTEED.

· You will identify exactly what you want for your ideal soul mate relationship.

· You will literally ask for what you want.

· You will symbolically signal to your mind, God and the Universe that you are ready for the most amazing, exciting, fulfilling and LOVING soul mate in your life NOW!

The first problem most people encounter when longing for the love of their life – their soul mate – is not knowing what to ask for.

The second is, literally, not asking. Oh people are great at announcing their discomfort pain and anguish, complaining but thoughtfully, intelligently and intentionally asking for exactly what you want requires thought, intelligence and intention.

Your gift addresses the first two problems and more.

Please accept your gift by clicking the link to register for the step-by-step exercise that holds your hand through the “ask” process – register now for the complementary e-course titled The Secret Solution.

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You will absolutely, positively accelerate the Law of Attraction’s activation to provide you with your ideal Soul Mate.

How will your life be different when the love of your life is in your life? We would love to hear from you in the comment section below.

Until next time, Namaste.

janet lee

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