For better and worse – Attract Your Ideal Soulmate in good times and not so good

Soulmate love is like a rose: beautiful, smells great and gives us a warm fuzzy feeling inside. Yet, when the veil of new romance drops, the thorns become obvious & often, painful – why, then, would anyone want to be in a Soulmate relationship? Ideally, the “good times” outnumber the “not so good times” and with a little effort, the “not so good times” become fewer and further in between.

What “little effort”, you ask? Just like a rose garden needs nurturing to provide year round beauty; so does your Soulmate relationship. In a “healthy” Soulmate relationship, the thorns expose your “Soul wounds”. This is not to torture you, nor is it a trick of fate; rather, because you now recognize them, you can “heal” them. This requires that 1) you recognize them as your “Soul wound” and not a character flaw in your Soulmate, 2) you choose to heal your “Soul wound” and 3) you know how-to heal your “Soul wound”. Two powerful & effective tools assist healing Soul Wounds:* and the Life Change Coaching Program*.

*Not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care.

Love is in the air…

More than any other time of year, holidays bring out the human need to share joy, passion and the good times with that one person who is your favorite companion, best friend and partner in the festivities. Attract your IDEAL Soulmate, now using simple exercises found in the Life Change App or online through the Life Change Coaching program…

Attracting Soulmate Love is a 4 Letter Word

While some will say that that 4 letter word is “hell”; I suggest that the solution is the 4 letter action word: “verb”.

Many times I read or hear that love should be easy or it is “wrong”; how can that be true? It has been my extensive experience that, conversely, those who effectively, constructively and intentionally face their resistance, then work through it, can forge a stronger more fulfilling and rewarding relationship than those who avoid or reject conflict.

Conflicting backgrounds, values and desires are common sources for disagreements and can become the reason couples use to argue and sometimes end their relationships. With skilled coaching and a common goal – to more than salvage the relationship – to enhance and improve the relationship – couples can learn love skills. Skills that help couples create or recreate their ideal relationship together.

For those couples just beginning their Soulmate relationship, much difficulty can be avoided applying a few simple techniques:

  1. Actively (with “loving kind curiosity” as opposed to an “interrogation” or “interview”) learn your partner’s background, values, goals and dreams; share yours – honestly – what you ignore or overlook in the beginning can divide you in the end.
  2. It is easy, especially as time goes by in your relationship, to begin to notice what your partner does that “annoys” you or what you “dislike” – intentionally notice and appreciate what  you “admire” or “like” – what you love about your partner, in fact, what caused you to feel interested in your partner and then to fall in love?
  3. When couples date and first come together, they actively and intentionally do and say things that they know and believe will attract their desired Soulmate – once committed, the pressures and demands of daily life can cause the one you love most in the world to fall to the bottom of your list of priorities, along with all those things that you once went out of your way to do and say to attract your heart’s desire. Sometimes those things become no longer realistic or feasible – life happens, things change – wise couples understand this, anticipate and use these happenings and changes to forge an even stronger bond. These couples are far better together than ever were or will be separately.

The most powerful tool that couples can use to restore or strengthen their relationship is a simple intention or commitment to continuously improve and adapt to meet both party’s needs and wants – a win/win*. Simple is not always easy; fortunately, there are tools that can help. One of the greatest inventions of modern time for helping people quickly and uniquely is “The App”.

Another effective tool for shifting a potentially negative and/or destructive “event” is the “pattern interrupt”** That is to say, when a potentially negative and/or destructive “event” is beginning to “unfold” and one, or ideally both, party’s recognize the pattern has initiated; then, they could agree to access Life Change-The App for immediate “help”, either in the palm of their hands or on their electronic tablet. Next, answering the questions in one or more of the 4 Apps, inside Life Change – The App, facilitates the environment, mindset and dialogue that can lead to a win/win solution – synergy – and ultimately the possibility of great make-up without the anguish, wounds and “scars” that an unfacilitated, emotional argument typically produces.

It is important to note that not all couples are meant to be together, forever or in a Soulmate relationship. Life Change – The App is a valuable tool for assisting couples, in the initial stages of “commitment”, to identify their common goals, values, dreams, habits as well as where they are misaligned. Ideally, couples transcend chemistry long enough to communicate, openly and honestly about what they want, have in common and, what they do not. Bearing in mind that what one is willing to overlook or ignore in the beginning will most likely be something that divides later on, the mature and wise couple will seek a win/win early on – intentionally aligning the misalignment. If this agreement is impossible; then, it may be less painful to part now as friends than it is to suffer the break-up later.

Regardless of where you are in your relationship, Life Change – The App can benefit Soulmates. For those who want the benefit of coaching to make the simple easy, there is The Life Change Coaching Program. The App, and coaching program, both help you and your partner make a Soulmate relationship a more rewarding, fulfilling 4 letter word – love the verb!

Best wishes for your Life and Love Extraordinaire!

janet lee

Life Change – The App

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012

Time Travel to Attract Your Soulmate Now!

My Soulmate and I recognized our attraction and launched our Soulmate journey more than 17 ½ years ago.

Our journey has been filled with amazing, loving and joyous experiences that we, frequently, enjoy reminiscing – many treasured adventures that exceed our personal hopes, dreams and imagination, made pleasurable a million times over because we experienced them together rather than alone. As we walk together down memory lane, reliving our adventures and magic moments it serves to add fuel to the fire of our love and passion – reinforces and strengthens our bond.

Simultaneously, these past 17 ½ years had their fair share of challenges, struggles and growth opportunities that, in hindsight, we give thanks that we survived and now thrive, better because of how we approached, assimilated and broke through their experience. Consequently, one, often overlooked and under-appreciated advantage of a Soulmate relationship is that our Soulmate “pushes our buttons” which exposes our wounds and allows us the opportunity to choose to heal or not. It still surprises me when I hear someone say that if Soulmate love is not easy then it isn’t meant to be – my Soulmate and I are better people today because of the wounds we confronted and healed together.

Fortunately, today there is a smarter, safer, proactive way to expose our wounds, in other words, an alternative to learning the hard way! Learning proactively – in advance of the real life experience – enables intellectually inspired response rather than emotionally driven reaction and allows us to face and battle our demons in a safe, comfortable environment time and place of our choice. Life Change The App is now available for free download in both Apple’s App and Google Play Stores.

Life Change The App contains 4 apps that help the user confront and master life and love’s inevitable challenges. The world renowned Soulmate Attractor App assists the user to turn the lemons from past experience into the seeds of greatness for next time around as you gain clarity and certainty of what you really, truly want to experience.  This popular app targets attracting a Soulmate yet is equally successful and popular for use to attract your ideal job, house, car or pretty much anything you can describe.

Belief Change The App is ideal for those users who effectively identified with clarity and confidence, exactly what they want to experience; yet, feel “stuck”: blocked totally, limited or when you get what you want only to sabotage it, seemingly uncontrollably.

Karma Change The App is ideal for users wishing to reverse bad luck. While Emotion Transformer helps the user translate the message that an emotional response is meant to communicate and turn the destructive, negative experience into powerful, positive energy for constructive action.

Soulmate Attractor App is always a free download at either your Apple App Store or the Google Play Store Right now, for a limited time only, you can purchase Belief Change, Karma Change and Emotion Transformer at the Google Play Store for one low price of $6.99. Act now to acquire tools to help you Attract Your Soulmate now and forever as well as to overcome and master inevitable life and love challenges and obstacles that my Soulmate and I perceive as our labor of love.

Best wishes for your Life and Love Extraordinaire!

janet lee

Life Change – The App

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012

Attract Your Soulmate in Time for Chinese Valentine’s Day

Chinese couples celebrate Valentine’s Day on the 7th day of the 7th lunar month, which in 2012 is August 23rd. It is now the 11th of August here in Chengdu, China, and I only see “signs” of the impending celebration of love and Soulmate relationships posted on a signboard near the entrance of Peter’s, a local Tex-Mex restaurant.

It seems appropriate to me that we celebrate this loving occasion on the other side of the planet, on the other side of the calendar; but really, where is the fanfare, commercialization and marketing genius that America’s greeting cards, florists, restaurants and advertisers annually attach to February 14? A single, easily overlooked signboard? Could this be a reflection of the value and worth Chinese culture places on Soulmate relationships? Could it be that Western commercialization hasn’t caught up with Chinese culture? Yet? Could it be that the Chinese couples already place such a high value on Soulmate relationships that most Chinese Soulmates don’t need a special occasion to notify their true love that they are an important and treasured part of Soulmate love and life?

I may never learn the answers to my question nor understand the differences with respect to how Americans treat Valentine’s Day compared to Chinese celebrate Valentine’s Day – it will be fun to observe if Chinese advertisers and marketers get more aggressive and creative as the 23rd approaches.

In the meantime, consider this: what would be different in your Soulmate relationship if you made every day Valentine’s Day? What if it became your personal mission to let the Love of your Life see, feel, hear, experience and know that they are important and treasured every day instead of waiting for the annual reminders? For hints or ideas on how you can successfully accomplish this vitally important mission click here now to visit our website. If your relationship is in need of help or if you are not in a Soulmate relationship at the moment but want to be click here to learn about our powerful Life Change Coaching Program. And for immediate, “real time”, Soulmate relationship help in the palm of your hand… check out our popular “Life Change” iPhone app here then watch here for news about the Android, Windows and Blackberry Apps coming to hand helds, tablets and PC’s near you.

Best wishes for your Life and Love Extraordinaire – make every day Valentines Day with your true love Soulmate NOW!

janet lee

Life Change – The App

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012

Why You Want to Attract Your True Love Soulmate Now

Before you can get to the why, it is important to discover for yourself: what is a Soulmate?

Wikipedia Definition:  “A soulmate (or soul mate) is believed by some to be the person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity, similarity, love, sex, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality or compatibility.”

Notice in that Wikipedia definition, the words “believed by some”… Wikipedia chose those specific words because you or I may not fully agree with this definition – you may have a very different idea about how you fill that role in your life. Certainly, there will be commonalities but the truth is, a Soulmate relationship from my perspective and needs may be very different than the way you perceive and recognize a Soulmate relationship. Some people seek a close, intimate, joined-at-the-hip type of relationship while others prefer the opposite with more freedom and less demands and others still fall in between. Who is right? Who is wrong? Or, is it better to consider that there is no right or wrong, rather, there could simply be mismatched goals, values, needs, wants and hence, mismatched Soulmate efforts.

Step 1 for anyone desiring to enter into a Soulmate relationship is to know with absolute clarity what they want & need.1 This level of clarity decreases the likelihood of attracting a mismatched partner! How much more desirable is it to avoid the pain and agony of a broken relationship than to endure a break-up? Good news – you have a CHOICE!

Fortunately, there is a uniquely simple yet effective 5-step “Soulmate Attractor” exercise that will absolutely help you discover and know with absolute certainty what you specifically need and want in a Soulmate relationship – and it is free here or here.
Interestingly, as you work through the 5-step “Soulmate Attractor” exercise, you will convince yourself, without any further encouragement from me, of the why a Soulmate relationship is an important part of your life! On the other hand, many of you who complete these 5-Steps will also discover why NOT enter into a Soulmate relationship! Whoa, what’s that all about? Sounds bad doesn’t it – actually, it is the best thing that can happen as a result of your efforts because you will have surfaced hidden saboteurs, limits and blockages that, until now, were buried in your unconscious mind – yet, affected the way you live and love in your life. Awareness is the first step to mastery.

Please allow me to introduce the Zuk Paradox, simply stated it is: “any time you set a goal, intention or even make a wish, anything and everything that opposes it comes to the surface to be healed.” If a healthy, mutually fulfilling Soulmate relationship is your goal; then, the Zuk Paradox can very well become your best friend! How, you wonder? Because when you discover these saboteurs, limits and blockages you can apply yet another exercise, either the 5-Step “Belief Change” Exercise found inside the Life Change App for relatively easy to shift beliefs; or, for those stubborn, fixed beliefs that refuse to shift easily, the 10-Step Belief Change Exercise found in our book, Belief Change The Book; and then, there is a third option, the Life Change Coaching Program, found on our website, that combines all of the exercises with a human element, to help you move through quickly and effectively. Regardless of which option you choose to apply, any of these three will likely increase your chances to attract a Soulmate that matches your specific, ideal Soulmate goals, values, needs and wants.  Oh, there is a 4th option – do nothing and likely continue to get what you’ve gotten all along… I love having choices, don’t you?

If you could use some help clarifying what you want and then removing the saboteurs, limits and blocks to getting what you want; please download our help in the palm of your hand app here & if you could benefit from coaching for accelerated and enhanced results join here and if all you need are some ideas for how-to bless your Soulmate, click here…

Happy attracting!

janet lee

Life Change – The App

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012
1  Remember and apply the Stephen Covey principle from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People3, “begin with the end in mind”

More Than 100 Things You Can Do To Attract Your Soulmate Now and Forever!

Loving, Kind things that you can choose to do to Bless Your Soulmate – Things that Attract Your Soulmate Now and Forever!

It is my experience that it is the little things we do that make or break Soulmate relationships; then, there is the icing on the cake that makes it a heavenly experience.

One of my favorite daily routines that I adapted to bless my husband, I learned from our dog Lady – a gorgeous Labrador retriever angel. Daily, when she heard the sound of my husband’s diesel truck as he pulled into the driveway, Lady raced (not walked) to the door, wagging her tail in clearly, eager, exuberant anticipation of that moment he came through the door – regardless of the circumstances of her day or if they had had a fight before; her welcome was always the same eager anticipation and tail wagging greeting… He loved it, she loved it and I learned from it.

Little daily ritual things like lighting up like a candle – delighting when greeting your Soulmate following his/her return after any absence… let them know that you are glad to be together again. Taking care of your physical appearance, dressing and making up to attract your Soulmate like you did when you dated them. Reaching out to touch, even for a minute, making eye contact, smiling and communicating, I love you. Sneaking up from behind, put your arms around your Soulmate and with a tender hug, say I love you. Asking about and seriously be interested in listening to how their day went or is going… always thinking and doing those little things that make their life better because you are in it.

For icing on your Soulmate Relationship cake… consider the following suggestions that I found on other people’s websites… For the record… these are mostly good ideas and ones that either a man or woman can choose to do for and with their Soulmate.

101 Romantic Things To Do With Your Lover1

1. Watch the sunset together.

2. Take showers together.

3. Back rubs/massages.

4. Listen to classical music and cuddle in the dark or w/ blacklight.

5. French Kiss.

6. Hold her w/ hands inside the back of her shirt.

7. Whisper to each other.

8. Cook for each other.

9. Skinny dip.

10. Make out in the rain.

11. Dress each other.

12. Undress each other.

13. Kiss every part of their body.

14. Hold hands.

15. Sleep together. (Actually sleep with each other – no sex)

16. One word: Foreplay

17. Sit and talk in just underwear.

18. Buy gifts for each other.

19. Roses.

20. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you’re together.

21. Wear his clothes.

22. Find a nice secluded place to lie and watch the stars.

23. Incense/candles/oils/blacklights and music make for great cuddling/sex.

24. Kiss at every chance you get.

25. Don’t wear underwear and let them find out.

26. Kinky is bad; blindfolds are good.

27. Lightly kiss their collarbone and their jawbone just below the ear, then whisper I love you.

28. Bubble baths.

29. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.

30. Make love.

31. Write poetry for each other.

32. Kiss/smell her hair.

33. Hugs are the universal medicine.

34. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.

35. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.

36. Tell her that she’s the only girl you ever want or he’s the only guy for you. Don’t lie.

37. Spend every second possible together.

38. Tell him/her that he/she doesn’t have to do anything he/she doesn’t want to. And mean it.

39. Look into each other’s eyes.

40. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly. For your man, gaze lovingly into his eyes, tell him you love him and kiss him tenderly.

41. Talk to each other using only body language and your eyes.

42. When in public, only flirt w/ each other.

43. Walk behind her and put your hands in her front pockets.

44. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren’t looking.

45. Clothes are no fun.

46. Buy her a ring. Jewelry is good for a woman; for the man in your life, buy something meaningful to a guy, specifically meaningful to him…

47. Keep that reminds you of your soulmate somewhere where you see it every day.

48. Sing to each other.

49. Read to each other.

50. PDA = Public Display of Affection.

51. Take advantage of any time alone together.

52. Tell him/her about how you answered every question in math with him/her name.

53. Draw. (If you can)

54. Let her sit on your lap/sit on his lap.

55. Go hiking and camp out together in the woods or on a mountain.

56. Lips were made for kissing. So were eyes, and fingers, and cheeks, and collarbones, and hands, and ears.

57. Kiss his/her stomach.

58. Always hold her around his/her hips/sides.

59. Guys like half-shirts.

60. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal.

61. Spaghetti! (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?)

62. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart.

63. Unless you can feel their hear beating, you aren’t close enough.

64. Dance together.

65. Sit in front of a roaring fire and make out/make love.

66. I love the way a girl looks right after she’s fallen asleep with her head in my lap.

67. Carry her to bed.

68. Waterbeds are fun.

69. You figure it out.

70. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it.

71. Break every one of your parents’ relationship rules for them.

72. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes

73. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say I love you.

74. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about them.

75. Remember your dreams and tell him/her about them.

76. Ride your bike 8 miles just to see them for a few hours.

77. Ride home and call them.

78. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.

79. Somehow incorporate them into any kind of religion or worship you have.

80. Be Prince Charming to her parents. (Brownie Points)

81. Act out mutual fantasies together. (Not necessarily sexual)

82. Brush her hair out of her face for her.

83. Stay up all night to think of 101 ways to be sweet to them.

84. Hang out with his/her friends. (more brownie points)

85. Go to church/pray/worship together.

86. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.

87. Cuddle together under a full moon on a clear night.

88. Learn from each other and don’t make the same mistake twice.

89. Everyone deserves a second chance.

90. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.

91. Make sacrifices for each other.

92. Really love each other, or don’t stay together.

93. Write a fictional story about how you met/fell in love, etc. and give it to them.

94. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren’t thinking about them, and make sure they know it.

95. Love yourself before you love anyone else.

96. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.

97. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.

98. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.

99. Sleep naked together.

100. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.

101. Never forget the kiss goodnight. And always remember to say, “Sweet dreams.”

101+ Romantic Things to do with Your Lover2

The list above and consider the following:

102. Groom your spouse. Ask to brush your wife’s hair when she gets out of the shower. Shave your husband’s face.

103. A Short Story – You know the guys that go around in restaurants and bars with the basket of roses selling them? My husband sought him out one evening before coming home from work, bought the entire basket of roses, and left them on my doorstep, then called me and told me to go to the front door! That was so romantic!

104. Be waiting at your mates car when they get off work, out of the beauty salon, get done grocery shopping…be creative!

105. Buy 11 real roses and one fake one…leave a note that says I’ll love you until the last rose dies… -Mark Ansley

106. Kiss your mate on their forehead.

107. While your lifemate is out. Put a bag of Hershey hugs on the door knob. Put rose peddles mixed with Hershey kisses on the floor leading to the bathroom with lights off. Candles for your light lined up all the way to the bathroom also. Two dozen roses lined all over the bathtub. With a card in plain view. And on the card write ” Now that I have hugged u before u walked in the door, kissed the ground that you walk on, and showered you with roses. Will you be mine 4-ever.” – Joseph Wade Stepp

108. I am in the military so for anyone that has a long distant relationship with their spouse. They can create a jewelry box, you can buy all you need at an inexpensive gift shop store, and decorate it with the things she likes to send you in her letter or emails, for example hearts and stars and stick them all over the box. Then inside the box you can write a thought for every day of what you remember as your great memories with her in your relationship, or things you like about her, reasons why you fell in love with her or even things you want to plan with her for the future. Then tell her when she receives this magic box that whenever she feels lonely like me when I am not with her or thinks of what I am thinking about throughout the day, she can open the box and be reminded that she is all I am thinking about.

109. Take a latex balloon (not inflated) and fill it with some confetti, a love note to your lifemate and a photo of yourself. Take the balloon to a balloon shop and have them fill it with helium while the items are still in the balloon. Attach a pin and a note that says; “Please pop” to the balloon string. Leave the balloon by your lifemate’s bedside before he/she wakes up in the morning. My husband really enjoyed this romantic action.

110. Post a Love note to her, even if she is with you, using her office/house address orin care of her friend’s postal address.

Plus, plus… from our Soulmate experience

111. Write a special love note, relevant for day or special event, on the bathroom mirror with soap

112. Plan a unique celebration marking your anniversary(s), special occasion either jointly or as a surprise for your Soulmate – make it a “tradition”

113. Wear matching shirts on an outing

114. Plant love notes, strategically in unexpected places, to surprise him/her when you are apart

115. Call your Soulmate and tell him/her what plans you have for the next time you are together – be true to your word!

116. Buy a special, meaningful gift and give it to your Soulmate on an ordinary day, for just because you want to say I love you…

117. Last but by no means least, do things together. When you date, you look for many opportunities to spend time together doing something you enjoy; as Soulmates, continue that practice. Sometimes, the thing you do may not be your favorite thing to do – do it anyway, with a smile; then, next time, do that thing together that you love to do. Win/win, mutually fulfilling, Soulmate fun!

Demonstrate that true love is a verb…

If you didn’t take sufficient care of your Soulmate relationship and now it is struggling to survive, please consider the Life Change Coaching Program for support in breaking through bricks in the wall that over the years now separate you – join here. Alternatively, please download our help in your hand apphere and if all you need are some ideas for how-to make your Soulmate feel loved and special, reread this blog…

janet lee

Life Change – The App

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012

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