Before you can get to the why, it is important to discover for yourself: what is a Soulmate?
Wikipedia Definition: “A soulmate (or soul mate) is believed by some to be the person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity, similarity, love, sex, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality or compatibility.”
Notice in that Wikipedia definition, the words “believed by some”… Wikipedia chose those specific words because you or I may not fully agree with this definition – you may have a very different idea about how you fill that role in your life. Certainly, there will be commonalities but the truth is, a Soulmate relationship from my perspective and needs may be very different than the way you perceive and recognize a Soulmate relationship. Some people seek a close, intimate, joined-at-the-hip type of relationship while others prefer the opposite with more freedom and less demands and others still fall in between. Who is right? Who is wrong? Or, is it better to consider that there is no right or wrong, rather, there could simply be mismatched goals, values, needs, wants and hence, mismatched Soulmate efforts.
Step 1 for anyone desiring to enter into a Soulmate relationship is to know with absolute clarity what they want & need.1 This level of clarity decreases the likelihood of attracting a mismatched partner! How much more desirable is it to avoid the pain and agony of a broken relationship than to endure a break-up? Good news – you have a CHOICE!
Fortunately, there is a uniquely simple yet effective 5-step “Soulmate Attractor” exercise that will absolutely help you discover and know with absolute certainty what you specifically need and want in a Soulmate relationship – and it is free here or here.
Interestingly, as you work through the 5-step “Soulmate Attractor” exercise, you will convince yourself, without any further encouragement from me, of the why a Soulmate relationship is an important part of your life! On the other hand, many of you who complete these 5-Steps will also discover why NOT enter into a Soulmate relationship! Whoa, what’s that all about? Sounds bad doesn’t it – actually, it is the best thing that can happen as a result of your efforts because you will have surfaced hidden saboteurs, limits and blockages that, until now, were buried in your unconscious mind – yet, affected the way you live and love in your life. Awareness is the first step to mastery.
Please allow me to introduce the Zuk Paradox, simply stated it is: “any time you set a goal, intention or even make a wish, anything and everything that opposes it comes to the surface to be healed.” If a healthy, mutually fulfilling Soulmate relationship is your goal; then, the Zuk Paradox can very well become your best friend! How, you wonder? Because when you discover these saboteurs, limits and blockages you can apply yet another exercise, either the 5-Step “Belief Change” Exercise found inside the Life Change App for relatively easy to shift beliefs; or, for those stubborn, fixed beliefs that refuse to shift easily, the 10-Step Belief Change Exercise found in our book, Belief Change The Book; and then, there is a third option, the Life Change Coaching Program, found on our website, that combines all of the exercises with a human element, to help you move through quickly and effectively. Regardless of which option you choose to apply, any of these three will likely increase your chances to attract a Soulmate that matches your specific, ideal Soulmate goals, values, needs and wants. Oh, there is a 4th option – do nothing and likely continue to get what you’ve gotten all along… I love having choices, don’t you?
If you could use some help clarifying what you want and then removing the saboteurs, limits and blocks to getting what you want; please download our help in the palm of your hand app here & if you could benefit from coaching for accelerated and enhanced results join here and if all you need are some ideas for how-to bless your Soulmate, click here…
© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012
1 Remember and apply the Stephen Covey principle from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People3, “begin with the end in mind”