Why You Want to Attract Your True Love Soulmate Now

Before you can get to the why, it is important to discover for yourself: what is a Soulmate?

Wikipedia Definition:  “A soulmate (or soul mate) is believed by some to be the person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity, similarity, love, sex, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality or compatibility.”

Notice in that Wikipedia definition, the words “believed by some”… Wikipedia chose those specific words because you or I may not fully agree with this definition – you may have a very different idea about how you fill that role in your life. Certainly, there will be commonalities but the truth is, a Soulmate relationship from my perspective and needs may be very different than the way you perceive and recognize a Soulmate relationship. Some people seek a close, intimate, joined-at-the-hip type of relationship while others prefer the opposite with more freedom and less demands and others still fall in between. Who is right? Who is wrong? Or, is it better to consider that there is no right or wrong, rather, there could simply be mismatched goals, values, needs, wants and hence, mismatched Soulmate efforts.

Step 1 for anyone desiring to enter into a Soulmate relationship is to know with absolute clarity what they want & need.1 This level of clarity decreases the likelihood of attracting a mismatched partner! How much more desirable is it to avoid the pain and agony of a broken relationship than to endure a break-up? Good news – you have a CHOICE!

Fortunately, there is a uniquely simple yet effective 5-step “Soulmate Attractor” exercise that will absolutely help you discover and know with absolute certainty what you specifically need and want in a Soulmate relationship – and it is free here or here.
Interestingly, as you work through the 5-step “Soulmate Attractor” exercise, you will convince yourself, without any further encouragement from me, of the why a Soulmate relationship is an important part of your life! On the other hand, many of you who complete these 5-Steps will also discover why NOT enter into a Soulmate relationship! Whoa, what’s that all about? Sounds bad doesn’t it – actually, it is the best thing that can happen as a result of your efforts because you will have surfaced hidden saboteurs, limits and blockages that, until now, were buried in your unconscious mind – yet, affected the way you live and love in your life. Awareness is the first step to mastery.

Please allow me to introduce the Zuk Paradox, simply stated it is: “any time you set a goal, intention or even make a wish, anything and everything that opposes it comes to the surface to be healed.” If a healthy, mutually fulfilling Soulmate relationship is your goal; then, the Zuk Paradox can very well become your best friend! How, you wonder? Because when you discover these saboteurs, limits and blockages you can apply yet another exercise, either the 5-Step “Belief Change” Exercise found inside the Life Change App for relatively easy to shift beliefs; or, for those stubborn, fixed beliefs that refuse to shift easily, the 10-Step Belief Change Exercise found in our book, Belief Change The Book; and then, there is a third option, the Life Change Coaching Program, found on our website, that combines all of the exercises with a human element, to help you move through quickly and effectively. Regardless of which option you choose to apply, any of these three will likely increase your chances to attract a Soulmate that matches your specific, ideal Soulmate goals, values, needs and wants.  Oh, there is a 4th option – do nothing and likely continue to get what you’ve gotten all along… I love having choices, don’t you?

If you could use some help clarifying what you want and then removing the saboteurs, limits and blocks to getting what you want; please download our help in the palm of your hand app here & if you could benefit from coaching for accelerated and enhanced results join here and if all you need are some ideas for how-to bless your Soulmate, click here…

Happy attracting!

janet lee

Life Change – The App

© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012
1  Remember and apply the Stephen Covey principle from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People3, “begin with the end in mind”

More Than 100 Things You Can Do To Attract Your Soulmate Now and Forever!

Loving, Kind things that you can choose to do to Bless Your Soulmate – Things that Attract Your Soulmate Now and Forever!

It is my experience that it is the little things we do that make or break Soulmate relationships; then, there is the icing on the cake that makes it a heavenly experience.

One of my favorite daily routines that I adapted to bless my husband, I learned from our dog Lady – a gorgeous Labrador retriever angel. Daily, when she heard the sound of my husband’s diesel truck as he pulled into the driveway, Lady raced (not walked) to the door, wagging her tail in clearly, eager, exuberant anticipation of that moment he came through the door – regardless of the circumstances of her day or if they had had a fight before; her welcome was always the same eager anticipation and tail wagging greeting… He loved it, she loved it and I learned from it.

Little daily ritual things like lighting up like a candle – delighting when greeting your Soulmate following his/her return after any absence… let them know that you are glad to be together again. Taking care of your physical appearance, dressing and making up to attract your Soulmate like you did when you dated them. Reaching out to touch, even for a minute, making eye contact, smiling and communicating, I love you. Sneaking up from behind, put your arms around your Soulmate and with a tender hug, say I love you. Asking about and seriously be interested in listening to how their day went or is going… always thinking and doing those little things that make their life better because you are in it.

For icing on your Soulmate Relationship cake… consider the following suggestions that I found on other people’s websites… For the record… these are mostly good ideas and ones that either a man or woman can choose to do for and with their Soulmate.

101 Romantic Things To Do With Your Lover1

1. Watch the sunset together.

2. Take showers together.

3. Back rubs/massages.

4. Listen to classical music and cuddle in the dark or w/ blacklight.

5. French Kiss.

6. Hold her w/ hands inside the back of her shirt.

7. Whisper to each other.

8. Cook for each other.

9. Skinny dip.

10. Make out in the rain.

11. Dress each other.

12. Undress each other.

13. Kiss every part of their body.

14. Hold hands.

15. Sleep together. (Actually sleep with each other – no sex)

16. One word: Foreplay

17. Sit and talk in just underwear.

18. Buy gifts for each other.

19. Roses.

20. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you’re together.

21. Wear his clothes.

22. Find a nice secluded place to lie and watch the stars.

23. Incense/candles/oils/blacklights and music make for great cuddling/sex.

24. Kiss at every chance you get.

25. Don’t wear underwear and let them find out.

26. Kinky is bad; blindfolds are good.

27. Lightly kiss their collarbone and their jawbone just below the ear, then whisper I love you.

28. Bubble baths.

29. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.

30. Make love.

31. Write poetry for each other.

32. Kiss/smell her hair.

33. Hugs are the universal medicine.

34. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.

35. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.

36. Tell her that she’s the only girl you ever want or he’s the only guy for you. Don’t lie.

37. Spend every second possible together.

38. Tell him/her that he/she doesn’t have to do anything he/she doesn’t want to. And mean it.

39. Look into each other’s eyes.

40. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly. For your man, gaze lovingly into his eyes, tell him you love him and kiss him tenderly.

41. Talk to each other using only body language and your eyes.

42. When in public, only flirt w/ each other.

43. Walk behind her and put your hands in her front pockets.

44. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren’t looking.

45. Clothes are no fun.

46. Buy her a ring. Jewelry is good for a woman; for the man in your life, buy something meaningful to a guy, specifically meaningful to him…

47. Keep that reminds you of your soulmate somewhere where you see it every day.

48. Sing to each other.

49. Read to each other.

50. PDA = Public Display of Affection.

51. Take advantage of any time alone together.

52. Tell him/her about how you answered every question in math with him/her name.

53. Draw. (If you can)

54. Let her sit on your lap/sit on his lap.

55. Go hiking and camp out together in the woods or on a mountain.

56. Lips were made for kissing. So were eyes, and fingers, and cheeks, and collarbones, and hands, and ears.

57. Kiss his/her stomach.

58. Always hold her around his/her hips/sides.

59. Guys like half-shirts.

60. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal.

61. Spaghetti! (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?)

62. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart.

63. Unless you can feel their hear beating, you aren’t close enough.

64. Dance together.

65. Sit in front of a roaring fire and make out/make love.

66. I love the way a girl looks right after she’s fallen asleep with her head in my lap.

67. Carry her to bed.

68. Waterbeds are fun.

69. You figure it out.

70. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it.

71. Break every one of your parents’ relationship rules for them.

72. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes

73. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say I love you.

74. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about them.

75. Remember your dreams and tell him/her about them.

76. Ride your bike 8 miles just to see them for a few hours.

77. Ride home and call them.

78. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.

79. Somehow incorporate them into any kind of religion or worship you have.

80. Be Prince Charming to her parents. (Brownie Points)

81. Act out mutual fantasies together. (Not necessarily sexual)

82. Brush her hair out of her face for her.

83. Stay up all night to think of 101 ways to be sweet to them.

84. Hang out with his/her friends. (more brownie points)

85. Go to church/pray/worship together.

86. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.

87. Cuddle together under a full moon on a clear night.

88. Learn from each other and don’t make the same mistake twice.

89. Everyone deserves a second chance.

90. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.

91. Make sacrifices for each other.

92. Really love each other, or don’t stay together.

93. Write a fictional story about how you met/fell in love, etc. and give it to them.

94. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren’t thinking about them, and make sure they know it.

95. Love yourself before you love anyone else.

96. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.

97. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.

98. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.

99. Sleep naked together.

100. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.

101. Never forget the kiss goodnight. And always remember to say, “Sweet dreams.”

101+ Romantic Things to do with Your Lover2

The list above and consider the following:

102. Groom your spouse. Ask to brush your wife’s hair when she gets out of the shower. Shave your husband’s face.

103. A Short Story – You know the guys that go around in restaurants and bars with the basket of roses selling them? My husband sought him out one evening before coming home from work, bought the entire basket of roses, and left them on my doorstep, then called me and told me to go to the front door! That was so romantic!

104. Be waiting at your mates car when they get off work, out of the beauty salon, get done grocery shopping…be creative!

105. Buy 11 real roses and one fake one…leave a note that says I’ll love you until the last rose dies… -Mark Ansley

106. Kiss your mate on their forehead.

107. While your lifemate is out. Put a bag of Hershey hugs on the door knob. Put rose peddles mixed with Hershey kisses on the floor leading to the bathroom with lights off. Candles for your light lined up all the way to the bathroom also. Two dozen roses lined all over the bathtub. With a card in plain view. And on the card write ” Now that I have hugged u before u walked in the door, kissed the ground that you walk on, and showered you with roses. Will you be mine 4-ever.” – Joseph Wade Stepp

108. I am in the military so for anyone that has a long distant relationship with their spouse. They can create a jewelry box, you can buy all you need at an inexpensive gift shop store, and decorate it with the things she likes to send you in her letter or emails, for example hearts and stars and stick them all over the box. Then inside the box you can write a thought for every day of what you remember as your great memories with her in your relationship, or things you like about her, reasons why you fell in love with her or even things you want to plan with her for the future. Then tell her when she receives this magic box that whenever she feels lonely like me when I am not with her or thinks of what I am thinking about throughout the day, she can open the box and be reminded that she is all I am thinking about.

109. Take a latex balloon (not inflated) and fill it with some confetti, a love note to your lifemate and a photo of yourself. Take the balloon to a balloon shop and have them fill it with helium while the items are still in the balloon. Attach a pin and a note that says; “Please pop” to the balloon string. Leave the balloon by your lifemate’s bedside before he/she wakes up in the morning. My husband really enjoyed this romantic action.

110. Post a Love note to her, even if she is with you, using her office/house address orin care of her friend’s postal address.

Plus, plus… from our Soulmate experience

111. Write a special love note, relevant for day or special event, on the bathroom mirror with soap

112. Plan a unique celebration marking your anniversary(s), special occasion either jointly or as a surprise for your Soulmate – make it a “tradition”

113. Wear matching shirts on an outing

114. Plant love notes, strategically in unexpected places, to surprise him/her when you are apart

115. Call your Soulmate and tell him/her what plans you have for the next time you are together – be true to your word!

116. Buy a special, meaningful gift and give it to your Soulmate on an ordinary day, for just because you want to say I love you…

117. Last but by no means least, do things together. When you date, you look for many opportunities to spend time together doing something you enjoy; as Soulmates, continue that practice. Sometimes, the thing you do may not be your favorite thing to do – do it anyway, with a smile; then, next time, do that thing together that you love to do. Win/win, mutually fulfilling, Soulmate fun!

Demonstrate that true love is a verb…

If you didn’t take sufficient care of your Soulmate relationship and now it is struggling to survive, please consider the Life Change Coaching Program for support in breaking through bricks in the wall that over the years now separate you – join here. Alternatively, please download our help in your hand apphere and if all you need are some ideas for how-to make your Soulmate feel loved and special, reread this blog…

janet lee

Life Change – The App





© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012

1. ACMELove.com Website: http://www.acmelove.com/romance/101-romantic-things.php

2. TheGloss.com Website: http://thegloss.com/fashion/101-romantic-things-to-do-with-your-partner/

3. AttractYourSoulmate.com Website: http://attractyoursoulmate.com/

FIREWORKS – The True Love Soulmate Experience

FIREWORKS – The True Love Soulmate Experience

Loud, ground shaking booms and the spectacular flow of sparkling, shimmering colors fly against a dark night sky – nothing can compare to those breath taking sights & sounds… right?

Not in my experience! Something equally, or even more, spectacular is that magic moment when two hearts, two lives, two loves become one. The intimate sparks that ignite, twinkle and fly in that moment, launch a journey that can last a lifetime – lovers, companions, best friends, partners in adventure as well as every day, ordinary moments and those dark moments when all seems lost, made better knowing that you are in love together – you are not alone, and you are far better together than you ever were apart! A relationship characterized by joy, intimacy and synergy, complete with metaphoric fireworks, can and will remain bright and alluring when fueled by the labor of love…

Beware of the EASY button! We live in a day and age where our inboxes are flooded daily with “easy” solutions luring us into making a purchase of a quick and easy way to get rich, to lose weight and even to Attract a Soulmate. I tried many of these well-intentioned, magical-thinking schemes and walked away disappointed, disillusioned and disagreed… I do, however, agree that you can absolutely, positively attract anything in life that you want. I also agree that many of us, based on past experience as well as observations of others’ experiences, formed energetic blocks that hide in our unconscious mind. These energetic blocks surface any and every time you make a goal or set a conscious intention and become either a complete block to your ability to achieve your goal or intention or limit your ability to enjoy what you attract. I even agree that the truly effective solution and product that permanently removes those blocks & limits works magic on the Law of Attraction. Where our disagreement lies is in the how-to remove blocks and limits that repel and sabotage your true love Soulmate experience.

It hasn’t been that long ago that I, too, hungered for my ideal companion in life’s experiences, ached to feel the arms of my Soulmate holding me close as I fell asleep each and every night – I remember those times all too well. I made my lists, wrote my affirmations, devoured self-help books, attended workshops, visited my therapists – traditional, spiritual and alternative – hypnotized, visualized and imagined as if it were my reality but I just kept getting the same thing over and over again. Finally, I recognized that the dates that I attracted exposed my deepest, darkest fears – childhood wounds that I had not yet healed! Wounds that none of my previous efforts EFFECTIVELY addressed let alone healed. Again I ran the gamut of remedies and cures; this is what I learned:

•             Permanent, effective solutions are better than temporary or ineffective ones – temporary can get you through ‘til permanent

•             There is a permanent, effective solution and it is SIMPLE – simple does not necessarily equal easy

•             Anything worth having in life is worth doing whatever it takes to get it – legally, morally and ethically that is – due diligence

•             Everything that exists has value and purpose and can be GOOD – if we make it so

Thankfully, today, my Soulmate and I are happily married, together over 17 years now and literally living the life of our “lists”… It is my pleasure to share with you how-to Attract Your true love Soulmate NOW and every day thereafter! But, we will address How to Live Happily Ever After tomorrow; first things first… How to Attract Your true love Soulmate NOW!

Permanent versus Temporary:

I acknowledge that everything has a value and purpose, including temporary and ineffective. Sometimes you need temporary to get you through ‘til permanent shows up; on the other hand, sometimes temporary becomes a “placeholder” and there is neither time nor room for permanent when it shows up – choose wisely! And ineffective, well, as humans we often tend to learn the hard way what works and what doesn’t work. Temporary and ineffective remedies or techniques typically mean that the block or limits resurface, sometimes disguised due to alteration by the activity but often, comes back as the same old thing over again. A permanent solution means the block and/or limits are no longer there to resurface. For our purposes, the energetic charge is flattened, neutralized… POOF, gone… like magic but only after your due diligence of digging and exploring for the root.

Kept It Simple Sweetie:

•             Simple, fill-in-the-blank exercises that facilitate your ability to surface those barrier & blocks then enabling intelligent, unemotional evaluation of their value, limitation and effect with the option of transforming or replacing IS EFFECTIVE, PERMANENTLY!

•             “Help in the palm of your hand”, making these exercises available in a simple hand-held device – iPhone/iPad/iPod touch App available at your App Store NOW with Android, Blackberry and Windows versions available August 17, 2012 – makes a permanent solution just about as easy as it gets.

•             Making the exercises available in books, paperback and e-reader downloads – Life & Love Extraordinaire&Belief Change  The Book, both available for purchase on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.com with Karma Change The Book coming soon – provides the reader with the exercises in full as well as conceptual grounding about the how & why these exercises are effective

•             BEST NEWS YET, add to your efforts a certified, licensed Life Change coach or join our support group and you have all the support, guidance and encouragement necessary to make your dream, of a true love Soulmate experience, come true.

The fireworks of romance are very real and one of the most powerful, rewarding and desired experiences ever. Invest your labor of love to Attract Your true love Soulmate NOW, download your iPhone/iPad/iPod Touch App here NOW, visit our website here NOW to join our coaching program, purchase books or even jumpstart the attraction process in a big way by attending one of our powerful intensive attraction retreats… you are guaranteed to experience present moment fireworks in joy and gratitude, with your ideal True Love Soul Mate in one year’s time or receive your money back in full!

janet lee

Life Change – The App





© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2012