Soulmate Attraction Process: Transform the worst thing that ever happened into the best thing that ever happened to you.

Somebody once said that it’s not what happens to you that makes or breaks you; it’s what you do with what happens to you: how you see it, how you feel about it and how you act and speak because of it.

So what can you do when your life is turned upside down, inside out and it hurts like…?

Celebrate in ANTICIPATION!

You can know and notice something GOOD is in the pipeline for you as a direct result. Better yet, in just 5 simple steps, diligently applied and completed, you can absolutely, constructively accelerate the grief to recovered process.

You can literally transform a seeming disaster into a stepping to stone to something better.

In the end, because of what you learn and gain from this 5 step healing process, you will prove to yourself that you are better off because of what you once thought was the worst thing that ever happened to you!

If your spouse just left or you lost your job or your business failed or __fill in the blank__ and you haven’t a clue what life holds for you as a result, step one is to KNOW, trust and believe that there is a gift of GOOD and it is coming NOW.

Step two, and equally important is closure or completing the cycle with the experience that is ending. Nobody likes to do this step when they are raw from fresh pain; however, if you can force yourself to do it, this process will help move you through the grief much faster and more effectively than if you don’t.

For step two, take a notebook or some blank sheets of paper and a pen to a peaceful, quiet spot where you can write uninterrupted for as long as you need. Across the top of one sheet of paper write the words: “EVERYTHING I LOVED ABOUT __fill in the blank__ “. Across the top of a second sheet of paper write the words: “EVERYTHING I HATED/DISLIKED ABOUT __fill in the blank__ “. Then write everything that comes to mind without editing or evaluating it.

Step three, may be a bit more difficult for you to do but it is critical to the speed and effectiveness of your healing and moving forward. Why you ask? Because the only thing in life any of us can truly CONTROL is our self. Everything else at the most we can INFLUENCE.

Please, across the top of a third piece of paper, write the words: “EVERYTHING I LOVED ABOUT ME IN THIS EXPERIENCE. “ The experience being a marriage, relationship, job, business, career, role… whatever just ended that you are grieving its loss. Across the top of a fourth piece of paper, write the words: “EVERYTHING I HATED/DISLIKED ABOUT ME IN THIS EXPERIENCE. “ Again, write everything that comes to mind without editing or evaluating it.

Step four is where the magic begins. Across the top of a fifth piece of paper, write the words: “EVERYTHING I WANT, EXPECT AND REQUIRE FROM THIS MOMENT FORWARD IN __fill in the blank__.” Then, fill in the blank with the topic you are working through, i.e., marriage, soulmate relationship, job, career, business… From your “LOVED” lists record on this new list, exactly what you want in the next experience. From your “HATED/DISLIKED” list, record the opposite for each item listed. For example, if you recorded that you “HATED/DISLIKED being put down and belittled” then on your “WANT, EXPECT AND REQUIRE…” list write: “being built up, acknowledged and praised” or another example might be as simple as on your “HATED/DISLIKED is disrespectful” on your “WANT, EXPECT AND REQUIRE…” list becomes “is respectful”. For this segment you are taking what you learned that you DO NOT WANT and turning them into a list of what you DO WANT.

Step five – the magic moment! Ceremoniously and safely take both sheets of “HATED/DISLIKED” lists and burn them. Seriously, do it and do it safely. The very action of burning them is a signal to God and your soul that you are complete and ready for the next phase in your soul’s journey. Then, again in whatever way is meaningful to you, ask God and the Universe to supply you with your WANT, EXPECT AND REQUIRE list.

The Law of Attraction is at work for you!

Once you complete these five steps there is nothing left for you to do but NOTICE what shows up and then respond appropriately. Doing so from the space and attitude of gratitude adds to the magical power of this healing process.

Can you now see how you are better for having gone through this experience?

janet lee


© jan gentleman-ingersoll Eastern Shepherd, Inc. 2009




Soulmate Training: Five Love Lessons from the movie Forgetting Sarah Marshall

It’s the end of the world as Peter Bretter knows it. His high profile television series star girlfriend, Sarah Marshall, dumps him and he is desperate to fill, or numb, the love void she left. Fiction movie that starts out in LA then mostly takes place on the beautiful island of Oahu, Hawaii:  starring and (written by) Jason Segal as Peter Bretter.  Sarah Marshall, played by Kristen Bell – breaks up with Jason Segal’s (Peter) character – struggling song writer – as he stands naked before her and tells him there’s no hope, she has found somebody else. 

We get a front row seat to Peter’s anguish and grief as he goes through a series of one night stands and drinking binges all the while his mind is consumed with thoughts of the good ole days with Sarah. To get away from the Sarah Marshall memories in his apartment and LA he flies to Hawaii only to show up at the same destination Sarah and her lover pick for a romantic get-away.

5.  Relationships are meant to be reciprocal; win/win! Yet, it is not uncommon for one partner to go through a down cycle while the other is going through an up cycle.  One of the most insightful lines in the movie: “It got really hard to take care of you when you quit taking care of yourself.” What is the fine line between giving a “helping hand up” and enabling to “wallow in the mud?”

4.  Healing from major life wounds can be assisted by shifting focus from what you lost and miss to a new love interest, helping others and what you can do for yourself. It is commonly agreed that we move through four stages of grief. First denial; second resistance; third exploration and finally commitment to a new path; this movie portrays this evolutionary process very well – see if you recognize all four!

3.  Some things, we think should be natural might benefit from some old fashioned skill training. The newlywed unable to enjoy sex with his bride, benefits greatly from comical and creative instructions from a “pro”.  

2.   Becoming totally vulnerable and honest with oneself is key to personal growth; adding in humor – the ability to laugh at oneself – truly opens one to healing wounds otherwise buried and festering. Nobody is perfect; it is our ability to acknowledge improvement areas, amend any harmful actions resulting from them and putting our self out there again that sets us on that path of self awareness and personal growth. Jason Segal’s Peter asked and received valuable, brutally honest information regarding the demise of his relationship with Sarah.

1.  Creativity is often inspired by pain and suffering. The energy of failure in some way – failed relationships for Jason Segal’s Peter becomes the creative energy necessary to compose a hit “puppet rock opera”. While this movie claims to be “fiction”, Jason Segal, the writer and star of the movie admits to have experienced a naked breakup drama, a series of bad dates and that he wrote a Dracula puppet rock opera. All of this combined was the energy that propelled him to write this comedy and effectively convey drama and emotion surrounding an unwanted break-up. Some of the most successful singers and songwriters leverage their personal experience to create the chords and melodies that our hearts recognize and relate to.

In the end, as with all relationships, it’s what we learn from the past, in the present moment, that creates our opportunity to do it better next time and prepares us for the next relationship that makes the whole experience worth it!

Soulmate Attraction: Jealousy – Gift or Curse?

If you can see it you can be it AND what works for me can work for you too!

On occasion people tell me I am so-o lucky to have a loving, fulfilling soul mate relationship; sometimes those people speak through jealous filters.

The emotion of jealousy can be either a gift or a curse!

The gift: clarity. Joe Vitale, one of the featured speakers in The Secret says Getting clear is truly “The Missing Secret” to making the Law of Attraction work for you all the time.  After all, it isn’t your conscious intentions that are being manifested in your life.  It’s your un-conscious counter-intentions..”

Once you CLEAR out those hidden blocks/beliefs, nothing will stand in the way of your success.
The roadblocks will be gone

When you notice the feeling known as jealousy, the first thing you can do is choose to shout with joy, passion and enthusiasm: “I now have a clue to what I really, really, really want! I’m on the fast track to receiving it now!” You just completed step 1 of the proven 5 step Manifestation Process.

Here is the 5 step process that anyone, yes, even you can easily choose to use and direct jealousy into propelling creative energy to manifest what you want:

1.    Notice the feeling. And do the shouting thing suggested above.

2.    Ask, what exacly is the trigger or cause of that feeling?

3.    Make a Request for: “that or better” comes to me NOW”

4.    Decide:

a.    Typical step 4 is a reactive or even denial approach.

b.    Better step 4 is a proactive approach.

5.    Receive – notice what shows up and give thanks!


Typical step 4 is wait and see then react to whatever comes. It can and does work but often with a lot of bumps and bruises gathered from the school of hard knocks.

Better step 4 knows that everybody has baggage and wants to not only know what is in theirs but to make sure that what is in theirs helps not hurts their efforts. This person also understands success models and actively seeks to leverage proven processes that remove obstacles and barriers. This person wants that helping hand that has been there done that and while may not totally eliminates the bumps and bruises along the way – at least minimizes them and time to manifestation.

We want to help you remove your roadblocks. Our Secret Solution is The Present Moment Now System. Imagine a smorgasbord of books, audios, videos, the Belief Change Exercise and a coaching program available as you need them. That’s exactly what you find at

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An Ideal Soulmate: She had 2 strikes and everyone thought she had too much baggage…

…and frankly, she agreed.

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